How to make friends as an adult
"How do I find a version of you that lives in my city?"
That is the text I sent my really good girlfriend who left me for 750 miles of spotless coastines. In other words, she moved to Hawaii. Despite being 4,600 miles away, our friendship continues to blossom like the flowers that surround her beautiful island. Her and I are on similar growth journeys and she just gets me! I have amazing friends who are local but our schedules and interests don't always align.
"Join new groups. You're always surrounded by great people. Be you."
"Put yourself in places that you would naturally visit. Other women with your energy will be there too."
I took her advice (as I often do) and began joining the social media groups that she had already forwarded to my inbox (I told you she is amazing). I made a post introducing myself in one of the groups and received a warm virtual welcome. Within the group's events tab, I saw there were events happening that week! I purchased my event tickets and used that excuse to buy a new dress and shoes.
After two trips to the mall, my outfit was ready and my excitement was up! The night before the event I messaged my friend to fill her in on my itinerary. First, we are having brunch and we must wear pink and white and it's a plus if you wear a hat! I went with this fascinator which I ordered 24 hours before the event because I had no luck in stores!
"I really hope tomorrow goes well. You deserve to be around people as great as you."
Well, tomorrow came and I am happy to report that I had the best Sunday Funday ever! I arrived at brunch which was held in a private room of a very nice restaurant. All the ladies looked so beautiful in their pink. I was met with smiles and appetizers. One of the girls moved her seat to keep me company at the empty table I was seated at. Her and I had been messaging on social media prior to the event and we immediately clicked. We share many things in common including having a toddler boy! Towards the end of our meal, we were given the opportunity to stand and share info on our passions and businesses. 60% of the women were business owners! Brunch was a hit!
After brunch we headed to Champicnic, a traveling luxurious picnic focused on fun and the celebration of, you guessed it, champagne (Rosé to be exact). Had it not been for the girls, I would have never known about this event. Champicnic was also pink and white themed. There was a live DJ and vendors like this woman-owned small business that makes natural body butters and even natural deodorant. I had an absolute blast dancing, mingling with the ladies, and seeing familiar faces.
No matter how old you are, it is not too late to make new friends! I already have my next vacation booked with my new crew. If you want to enrich your circle of friends, take the advice of my very wise friend.
1. Join social media groups that share your interests.
2.Visit places you love.
3. Be yourself and have an open mind.
4. Remember great people are all around you, you just have to find them.
Cheers to new friends and new adventures!
